Saturday, 10 February 2018

Positively Communicate for Positive Parents

What you say or don't say and how you say things to your child will affect your relationship with him.  

Do you find yourself shaming, blaming, criticising, rebuking and all the other ways that can put him down and squash his spirit? Does your speech tend towards the negative such as, "Don't do that!", "That's not good enough!" and "Stop whinging!"?

A positive relationship is based on positive communications. 

It's where you use encouragement, appreciation, positive reinforcements, statements and feedback to lift your child's confidence and self-esteem. When you are a source of support and comfort for your child then your relationship with your child flourishes. 

Monday, 5 February 2018

How Prophet Muhammad (s) Corrected Children's Behaviour

When your child does something that you see as wrong, what is your reaction to it? Do you get angry, annoyed or exasperated and do you start to yell, question, blame, shame, ridicule or find faults with your child? The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, was known to be kind and gentle, especially with children. He never did any of this. He was patient with children and the way he responded to them and corrected their behaviour is the example for us to follow.

These are the things to keep in mind when you need to correct your child's behaviour:

Saturday, 27 January 2018

Connect With Your Child At Special Time

Special time is quality time spent playing with each of your child every day. It is not time spent sitting in your child's company while she plays and you do something else. It is not the time you spent supervising your child's play nor is it the time you spent taking your child to outings. It is time spent doing what your child does in her play and giving your child your full attention. This is true connection.

We parents can get so busy in a day that we're not present with our child. We may be with our child physically but we may not be there mentally. This is why special time is so special. It allows us to connect with our child doing the things that she loves and chooses to do. Whether your child is a toddler or teenager, special time works for all ages.

Read on to find out the conditions for special time to work.

Sunday, 21 January 2018

Connect With Your Child At Mealtimes

Mealtimes are an important part of the day for talking with each other and sharing what you did during the day with your family. It's a time when everyone is in the one same place. Each family is different so it could be for breakfast, lunch or dinner. Whatever you do, have at least one mealtime that you consistently sit together to share your meal. For most people, this would be dinner.