"All mankind is from Adam and Eve, an Arab has no superiority over a non-Arab nor a non-Arab has any superiority over an Arab; also a white has no superiority over black nor does a black have any superiority over a white except by piety and good action. Learn that every Muslim is a brother to every Muslim and that the Muslims constitute one brotherhood. Nothing shall be legitimate to a Muslim which belongs to a fellow Muslim unless it was given freely and willingly. Do not, therefore, do injustice to yourselves."
To ensure that our children don’t grow to be racists but to care for all people no matter what they look like or where they’re from, here are 5 ways.
1. Perspective Taking
Taking the perspective of others is the first step towards empathy. To help develop this, have regular discussions with your children on how others are thinking and feeling. When you notice someone sad or undergoing some sort of emotion, you could ask your children, "What do you think he's feeling? How can you tell?" or "Why do you think she might feel that way?"
2. Act on Their Compassion
Encourage your children to act on their compassion and not just to feel it. It's all well and good to feel compassion for others but it's much better to do something about it and make it easier for that person.
“Whoever relieves a believer’s distress of the distressful aspects of this world, Allah will rescue him from a difficulty of the difficulties of the Hereafter. Whoever alleviates [the situation of] one in dire straits who cannot repay his debt, Allah will alleviate his lot in both this world and in the Hereafter. Whoever conceals [the faults of] a Muslim, Allah will conceal [his faults] in this life and the Hereafter." (Muslim)
If your children feel sad at seeing a homeless person then encourage them to give some donation or buy some food and give it to the person. If your child sees that another child without lunch then encourage them to share their own lunch.
3. Reflect on Their Actions
Train your children to think about the consequences of their actions on others. The best way is to think before they act but sometimes it's hard for children (even for adults) to think beforehand so to counteract this, the next best way is to reflect on what they just did.
When your children has just acted in a way that was either helpful or not helpful you could ask, "Was that action helpful to others?" and "How can you tell?" If it was helpful, you could say, "MashaAllah, you're such a helpful person!" If it was not helpful then you could comment, "How can you fix it to make it helpful?" or "What can you do next time to help others?"
4. Reach Out and Help Someone
Teach your children to help others and to not stand around and wait for others to help. This is called the Bystander Effect and it happens because when there are other people around, everyone expects the others to help. If someone dropped their things all over the floor, help to pick them up. If someone is carrying something heavy then help to open the shop door. If someone slipped then pull them up. You want your children to have the instinct to help.
Care needs to be taken here of course, about stranger danger. Teach your children that as long as they're in the open with lots of people around then it's pretty safe to help. Just don't go into alleyways or follow someone into their homes or cars. Remember, open areas and not confined spaces.
5, Interact with Others
Instead of hanging around your own group of people or going to social gatherings with people from your own ethnicity, take your children to a mixed group gathering. You know how some masjids 'belong' to a certain ethnic group? Take your children to other ethnic group's masjid or functions. Do it often. In this way, they get to mix and interact with other Muslims.
O you mankind, surely We created you of a male and a female, and We have made you races and tribes that you may get mutually acquainted. Surely the most honorable among you in the Providence of Allah are the most pious; surely Allah is Ever-Knowing, Ever-Cognizant. (Quran, Hujarat 49:13)
These are just some ways to raise kids who are kind to everyone. Can you think of some more ways?
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